Are You Cool?
“Nothing gives one person so much advantage
Over another as to remain always cool and
Unruffled under all circumstances.”
- Thomas Jefferson
The above quote can be taken as a strategy to overcome an enemy just as much as it can apply to keeping a marriage or a friendship strong. We need to realize that getting worked up, upset, fired up, or mad at someone, something, or a particular situation is very unproductive and, most of all, damaging to you. What do I mean?
By losing your cool, you are giving up your personal control. By getting upset, you are allowing another person or situation control you. Who in their right mind wants to be controlled? For example, let’s say you have a controlling or manipulative boss. If you can stay calm when he or she starts losing control and directing anger at you, the result of your calm behavior will be an emotional victory for you.
There is a fringe benefit to staying calm when others are losing their cool either at or around you. If you have a friend/boss, or co-worker whose goal is to attack you and make you feel bad, and you respond with a calm, even tempered persona, it will make the attacker look and/or feel very uncomfortable.
Not that you want to make anyone feel uncomfortable or bad, but if you do make someone feel uncomfortable as a result of lashing out at you, they will be less inclined to lash out at you in the future. Reason for that is, no one intentionally makes themselves feel bad. We all want to feel good.
Everyone wants to be respected. Times of trial and tribulation reveal an individual’s character. When things get tough and you stay calm, that will earn you respect.
Being cool = Being in Control = Respect from peers!
You see, being cool provides multiple benefits not only to yourself but to the world around you!
Be Cool and Have a Great Day!
Tags: Personal Development